School has started, the homeroom teacher reminds: Dont be the annoying parent in the parent WeChat group

School has started, and I have heard many parents' confessions on WeChat backend: I feel helpless and wronged in the parent WeChat group.

When the parents of a bear child hear the buzzing of their phone, they feel scared and apprehensive that their child has caused trouble and is being talked about by others. The parents of poor students dare not speak out when they see the rankings in the group.

Even parents of children who are in the middle of their academic performance, watching the parents of top students flaunt their skills every day, their originally calm and contented hearts immediately want to find fault with their children

Besides reminding our children to be good students, should we also reflect on how we, as parents, should appear in the classroom?

I read this article today and want to share it with everyone. If you want your child to become the popular classmate in the class, let's not be the annoying parents in the class group for now.

Communication between teachers and parents is increasingly inseparable from "class WeChat groups".

But I don't know when it started, but the "class WeChat group" began to change its flavor, showing off wealth, showing off children, pulling votes, purchasing agents, doing stocks

Sometimes I feel angry and confused. If parents don't follow the rules, how can we educate their children to follow them?!

With the increasing use of WeChat, "parent WeChat groups" have gradually become an indispensable communication platform for every class. Teachers will report on the children's school situation and issue important notices; Parents who have questions will also communicate with teachers in WeChat groups.

But along with convenience, many parents' behaviors have made WeChat groups "tasteless", adding a lot of troubles to teachers and parents.

There was a time when Teacher Lao Ge wanted to close the class WeChat group. When asked about the reason, he frowned and said, "It's because the parents' enthusiasm is too great

The situation is as follows:

Every time Lao Ge says a sentence in the WeChat group, even if it's just a normal assignment, there will be a response from Da Boer's parents: Teacher, you've worked hard! Teacher is amazing! Thank you, teacher

Some parents even chatted along this topic.

The phone beeps incessantly!

More importantly, with parents flooding the screen like this, many parents who haven't checked their phones in the first place are likely to miss important information released by their teachers.

Duo Duo is also a mother of elementary school students, and has encountered this problem many times. She has also heard many complaints from mothers around her.

Even some mothers would specifically say, "That XX's mother is so annoying, the king of screen flooding!" "XX's child's grandfather, grandfather, father, and mother are all in the group, and sometimes the whole family chats in the WeChat group. It's really outrageous

Is this a problem?

It's a problem, and it's a big problem!

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In fact, the method is very simple, just the teacher needs to list some rules one by one and publish them in the WeChat group.

Of course, if your 'parent group' currently does not have rules, you can share this article with your child's teacher or directly share the article in the 'parent group'.

I believe that after parents read it, the 'parent group' will become more and more regulated.

After multiple interviews and discussions with class teachers, it is recommended that parents do not engage in the following types of parenting

● Pleasing and screen brushing type

1) As soon as the teacher spoke, he immediately responded, 'You've worked hard, take care of your health.'.

The homework assigned by the teacher and the messages posted can be seen without the need for a reply. To prevent unnecessary screen flooding, there is no need to reply to the word 'received'.

2) If you say it's okay, I'll say it, but if you don't, I'll step on it. Dozens of people reply to the same message, and soon an important message is "drowned out".

Private chats outside the group must not be freely flooded.

3) Post messages in the parent group after 10 pm.

Try not to chat too late in the group chat at night to avoid disturbing others' rest. If there are important matters, you can directly contact the teacher.

● Dazzling wealth display type

1) Show off your child's grades.

This behavior is actually silently hurting the hearts of children and parents with poor grades.

2) Share various travel photos.

Private photos like this can be shared on social media, but posting them in class groups will only cause resentment among everyone.

3) From time to time, I proudly ask everyone to like the small stickers, homework, and neatly written calligraphy that my child received, hoping that the teacher will pay attention to them.

Even if parents don't expose themselves everywhere, a child's sharpness cannot be obscured. The low-key "talented scholars" and "talented women" are admirable and also loved by teachers.

● Overly focused type

1) Constantly asking the teacher about the child's situation in the class group every day, fearing that the child may encounter new "situations" at school.

How can children build confidence if parents do not trust their children so much? How can we grow up?

2) A child from three generations should join the class group.

The pressure of children's growth is formed in this way! The more parents behave like this, the more tired their children will grow up.

● Publish irrelevant information type

1) Share likes, votes, and sell items all in the class group.

You want others to point at your child and say, "It's his mother who often sells things in the class!" So please save face for your child!

● Group arguing type

1) The child had a minor dispute at school, and the parents were eager to protect their child and started a war in the group chat.

How can you educate your child not to argue, not to fight, and to handle everything calmly when you are so impulsive? Please remember that your behavior subtly shapes a child's personality.

2) Fighting with teachers (this situation is rare, but it does exist, for example, blaming teachers for favoritism)

The more times like this, the more important it is to communicate privately with the teacher. In addition, parents must adjust their mentality and choose to trust their teachers, which is very important.

In order to standardize the "Parent WeChat Group" and improve communication between teachers and parents, I have prepared a few small suggestions for teachers:

01. Criticizing children without naming them, disclosing grades, rankings, and other information in class groups will only hurt children's self-esteem and make parents feel uncomfortable.

02. Do not only post photos of top performing students or outstanding students every time, try to make sure that all parents can see their children's photos appearing in the class group.

03. Whether it's a child with good or poor grades, praise them more and criticize them less, and try to discover their strengths as much as possible.

04. Do not forward unverified information, and do not cause unnecessary worry for parents.

If individual students have problems, they can communicate with their parents separately, and for common problems, they can communicate with their parents in the class group.

Try adding the words' no need to reply 'or similar phrases after each notification to avoid a lot of unnecessary information harassment.

07. Be a guide in the class group and learn to politely remind people of content that is not suitable for posting in the class group.